Divorcing A Narcissist
After going through my divorce, I began to seek more out of life and developed a deeper relationship with God. And that is when he began to revel to me that my Pain had A Purpose. My goal tonight is to educate you on how to identify a narcissistic person and I will even share a little about my own experience as well.
Do you know what a narcissist looks like? Well I did not either. So let me tell you! A Narcissistic personality disorder is defined as a pattern of grandiosity (which is the quality of being impressive and imposing in appearance or style – meaning buying expensive things all the time like flashy clothes or cars), they have a need for admiration (which means they feel the need to have respect and approval from everyone they come in contact with) , and the lack of empathy.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be very draining at times. My ex - husband did not come across as a narcissist while we were married. It wasn’t until going through my divorce that I began to see the signs of a narcissist.
According to DSM-5 which means Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition: this is a manual that mental health providers use to Characterize some narcissistic disorders:
Schizophrenia - is a serious mental illness that affects how a person thinks, feels, and behaves. Schizophrenia is also characterized by thoughts or experiences that seem out of touch with reality, disorganized speech or behavior, and decreased participation in daily activities.
Bipolar - is formerly called manic depression, which is a mental health condition that causes extreme mood swings that include emotional highs and lows.
Depression - is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest and can interfere with your daily functioning, like behavioral and physical symptoms.
Anxiety – is a feeling of fear or apprehension about what is to come.
A Narcissists deeply need to feel superior over you. Being in control is what helps them fell powerful.
1. You can’t allow a narcissist to control your mind
a. Mind control is a character strength to gain, assume, or exercise the ability or authority to manage, direct, or influence something.
b. So, Stay In Control
c. Do not be in fear of what they will say or their actions
2. Be prepared to bump heads because they do not see themselves as having a problem
a. If you speak up about their disrespect, they will blame you and call you crazy.
b. So Be aware.
3. They think they are right about everything
a. Having a sense of entitlement
b. Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it
4. They thrive off being worshipped
a. The feeling of adoration
b. They seek attention from anyone
5. They will never think they are in the wrong
a. so do not expect to get an apology from them
b. they be preoccupied with fantasies about things like success or power
6. It’s not easy dealing with a Narcissists because
a. They will play the victim
b. Most of the time you will have no idea of what you did or said to make them mad.
7. A Narcissists punishes everyone around them for their lack of self-confidence
a. Sometimes they will treat you like you are nothing.
Fighting with a narcissist feels impossible. The mind games that they create are to keep you feeling off-balance, insecure, and worrying about your state of mind. The more mind games a narcissist play, they are keeping you in an abusive cycle. They work diligently at manipulating you to believe you are responsible for any and everything. I had to take control of my mind and my life! You must take control of your mind. Take your Power back and be in control of your life!